New York Times Bestselling Author And Girls Who Code Founder/ceo Reshma Saujani Inspires Us To Discover The Power Of Female Bravery. Do You Ever Feel Crushed Under The Weight Of Your Own Expectations? Do You Often Lose Sleep Ruminating Over A Tiny Mistake Or Worrying About What Someone Else Thinks Of You? Do You Run Yourself Ragged Trying To Do It All At Home And At Work, With A Smile And Not A Hair Out Of Place? Have You Ever Passed Up An Opportunity--a New Relationship, New Job, Or New Challenge--because You're Afraid You Won't Immediately Excel At It? For You, Is Failure Simply Not An Option? You're Not Alone. As Women, We've Been Taught From An Early Age To Play It Safe. Well-meaning Parents And Teachers Rewarded Us For Being Quiet And Polite, Urged Us To Be Careful So We Don't Get Hurt, And Steered Us To Activities At Which We Could Shine. Meanwhile, Boys Were Expected To Speak Up, Get Dirty, Play Rough, And Climb To The Top Of The Monkey Bars. In Short, Boys Are Taught To Be Brave, While Girls Are Taught To Be Perfect. As A Result, We Grow Up To Be Women Who Are Afraid To Fail. So Terrified Of Not Doing Everything Perfectly, We Tamp Down Our Dreams And Narrow Our World, Along With Our Opportunities For Happiness. As Too Many Of Us Eventually Learn, Being Afraid To Take Risks, To Use Our Voice To Take A Stand Or Ask For What We Want, Even To Make Mistakes, Leads To A Lot Of Disappointment And Regret. But It Doesn't Have To Be This Way. In A Book Inspired By Her Hugely Popular Ted Talk, Reshma Saujani Shows Us How To End Our Love Affair With Perfection And Rewire Ourselves For Bravery. Drawing On Hundreds Of Interviews With Girls And Women From Around The Country, Stories Of Women Changing The World One Brave Act At A Time, And Her Own Personal Journey, Saujani Shares An Array Of Powerful Insights And Practices To Make Bravery A Lifelong Habit And Enable Us To Be The Authors Of Our Biggest, Boldest, And Most Joyful Life-- Do You Ever Feel Crushed Under The Weight Of Your Own Expectations? Have You Ever Passed Up An Opportunity Because You're Afraid You Won't Immediately Excel At It? Saujani Shows That Women Are Taught From An Early Age To Play It Safe, Rewarded For Being Quiet And Polite, Steered To Activities At Which We Could Shine. We Grow Up Afraid To Fail, Tamping Down Our Dreams And Our Opportunities For Happiness. Saujani Shows Us How To End Our Love Affair With Perfection And Rewire Ourselves For Bravery. -- Adapted From Publisher Info Introduction -- How Girls Are Trained For Perfection. Sugar And Spice And Everything Nice ; The Cult Of Perfection ; Perfection 3.0: When The Perfect Girl Grows Up -- Brave Is The New Black. Redefining Bravery ; Why Be Brave? -- Kiss The Perfect Girl Goodbye: The Path To Being Brave. Build A Bravery Mindset ; Get Caught Trying ; Nix The Need To Please ; Play For Team Brave ; Surviving A Big, Fat Failure. Reshma Saujani. Includes Bibliographical References And Index.

Brave, Not Perfect : How Celebrating Imperfection Helps You Live Your Best, Most Joyful Life

Saujani, Reshma

Random House, Incorporated

Crown Currency

Place of publication not identified, 2019

Penguin Random House LLC, New York, 2019

United States, United States of America

First edition, New York, 2019

Feb 05, 2019

7, 2019

lg2325573

Source title: Brave, Not Perfect: Fear Less, Fail More, and Live Bolder

In a book inspired by her popular TED talk, New York Times bestselling author Reshma Saujani empowers women and girls to embrace imperfection and bravery.
Imagine if you lived without the fear of not being good enough. If you didn't care how your life looked on Instagram, or worry about what total strangers thought of you. Imagine if you could let go of the guilt, and stop beating yourself up for tiny mistakes. What if, in every decision you faced, you took the bolder path?
Too many of us feel crushed under the weight of our own expectations. We run ourselves ragged trying to please everyone, all the time. We lose sleep ruminating about whether we may have offended someone, pass up opportunities that take us out of our comfort zones, and avoid rejection at all costs.
There's a reason we act this way, Reshma says. As girls, we were taught to play it safe. Well-meaning parents and teachers praised us for being quiet and polite, urged us to be careful so we didn't get hurt, and steered us to activities at which we could shine.
The problem is that perfect girls grow up to be women who are afraid to fail. It's time to stop letting our fears drown out our dreams and narrow our world, along with our chance at happiness.
By choosing bravery over perfection, we can find the power to claim our voice, to leave behind what makes us unhappy, and go for the things we genuinely, passionately want. Perfection may set us on a path that feels safe, but bravery leads us to the one we're authentically meant to follow.
In Brave, Not Perfect , Reshma shares powerful insights and practices to help us override our perfect girl training and make bravery a lifelong habit. By being brave, not perfect, we can all become the authors of our biggest, boldest, and most joyful life.

INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLER • Inspired by her popular TED Talk, the founder and CEO of Girls Who Code urges women to embrace imperfection and live a bolder, more authentic life. “A timely message for women of all ages: Perfection isn’t just impossible but, worse, insidious.”—Angela Duckworth, bestselling author of Grit Imagine if you lived without the fear of not being good enough. If you didn’t care how your life looked on Instagram. If you could let go of the guilt and stop beating yourself up for making human mistakes. Imagine if, in every decision you faced, you took the bolder path? As women, too many of us feel crushed under the weight of our own expectations. We run ourselves ragged trying to please everyone, pass up opportunities that scare us, and avoid rejection at all costs. There’s a reason we act this way, Saujani says. As girls, we were taught to play it safe. Well-meaning parents and teachers praised us for being quiet and polite, urged us to be careful so we didn’t get hurt, and steered us to activities at which we could shine. As a result, we grew up to be women who are afraid to fail. It’s time to stop letting our fears drown out our dreams and narrow our world, along with our chance at happiness. By choosing bravery over perfection, we can find the power to claim our voice, to leave behind what makes us unhappy, and to go for the things we genuinely, passionately want. Perfection may set us on a path that feels safe, but bravery leads us to the one we’re authentically meant to follow. In Brave, Not Perfect,Saujani shares powerful insights and practices to help us let go of our need for perfection and make bravery a lifelong habit. By being brave, not perfect, we can all become the authors of our best and most joyful life.

INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLER • Inspired by her popular TED Talk, the founder and CEO of Girls Who Code urges women to embrace imperfection and live a bolder, more authentic life.
“A timely message for women of all ages: Perfection isn’t just impossible but, worse, insidious.”—Angela Duckworth, bestselling author of Grit
Imagine if you lived without the fear of not being good enough. If you didn’t care how your life looked on Instagram. If you could let go of the guilt and stop beating yourself up for making human mistakes. Imagine if, in every decision you faced, you took the bolder path?
As women, too many of us feel crushed under the weight of our own expectations. We run ourselves ragged trying to please everyone, pass up opportunities that scare us, and avoid rejection at all costs.
There’s a reason we act this way, Saujani says. As girls, we were taught to play it safe. Well-meaning parents and teachers praised us for being quiet and polite, urged us to be careful so we didn’t get hurt, and steered us to activities at which we could shine. As a result, we grew up to be women who are afraid to fail.
It’s time to stop letting our fears drown out our dreams and narrow our world, along with our chance at happiness.
By choosing bravery over perfection, we can find the power to claim our voice, to leave behind what makes us unhappy, and to go for the things we genuinely, passionately want. Perfection may set us on a path that feels safe, but bravery leads us to the one we’re authentically meant to follow. In Brave, Not Perfect, Saujani shares powerful insights and practices to help us let go of our need for perfection and make bravery a lifelong habit. By being brave, not perfect, we can all become the authors of our best and most joyful life.

"Girls Who Code CEO inspires women to chose bravery over perfection - to live a fuller and more rewarding life. From an early age, women are taught to play it safe. Well-meaning parents and teachers urge girls to be careful on the playground so they don't get hurt, steer them to activities at which they can shine, teach them to sit quietly and strive to be liked. Boys, on the other hand, are encouraged to speak up, get dirty, play rough, climb to the top of the monkey bars - and fall down trying. In short, boys are taught to be brave, while girls are taught to be perfect. Of course, cautious girls grow up to be cautious women, terrified to stumble, say the wrong thing, or get any less than the "A". At school, at work, and at home they strive to do it all, with a smile and not a hair out of place. That is, until they realize that in the real world, no one is giving out gold stars, it's impossible to look "flawless" after being up all night with a crying baby, and the road to achievement is in fact not paved with diligence and caution. Meanwhile, opportunities have passed them by and happiness has slipped further out of reach. In a book inspired by her viral Ted Talk, Saujani aims to stop this paradigm in its tracks. By pursuing things we think we suck at, by rethinking the impossible standards we set for ourselves, and by realizing that the messy edges are what make our lives rich and interesting, she says, we can let go of our need to be perfect and rewire ourselves for bravery"--Provided by publisher

2021-08-29